Keep Your Friends Close?

Friends can be dangerous things. They can be great things as well. But when you're trying to make a positive change in your life, they can be dangerous.

Why?

Because without even knowing it or trying to, they become what I call Infectors. They'll say a comment like, "Are you crazy, do you know how much work that will take? You'll never do that." They plant that idea in your mind and project negative energy towards you. And yes, that definitely makes a difference as to wether or not you're successful.

I see this all the time. Someone wants to train with me to get into shape. One of their "friends" says it's pointless to waste the money, or they can do it on their own, even though they know deep down they won't. Sometimes it's even a spouse that does it.

I think it's because we like the people we're close to to be at the same station in life as we are. It makes us more comfortable. So if one of our friends tries to improve their lot in life in anyway we try to hinder them so they stay at our level. Mostly subconsciously I hope.

You don't see too many millionaires who are best friends with people making minimum wage. You don't see many super fit people who are best friends with morbidly obese people.

What's my point? If your friends are hindering your progress, first you must recognize it. Perhaps ask them to stop. Ignore them. Or, if it's really bad, cut them out of your life. At least temporarily.

The people you surround yourself with contribute greatly to your degree of success in life. Albeit fitness, career, love, what have you. Ignore the Infectors and find some true friends who will encourage and support you. You will carry each other on the path of success in all your endeavors.

Train smart,

RL